The Buddha said:
This existence of ours is as transient as autumn clouds
To watch the birth and death of beings is like looking at the movements of a dance.
A lifetime is like a flash of lightning in the sky,
Rushing by, like a torrent down a steep mountain.


What the caterpillar perceives as the end, to the butterfly is just the beginning.


With his death, Alan showed me the great kindness of all beings and the enormous difficulty of repaying it. From the 999 staff to the paramedics, fire brigade, to the doctors and nurses at Frenchay Hospital and at the BRI... everybody has been so incredibly kind!

Thank you Branwen and Simon for being there for me and Alan's family during these difficult times. Thank you for such a lovely day in Wales, for cooking such a delicious meal, taking our last picture together, contacting Tim and Jan who straight away came to meet us at A&E, for all the lifts to and from the hospital, for printing the brochures, and so much more!

Thank you, Jane [Memorial Woodlands Funeral Director] for enabling me to spend some time alone at the Chapel of Rest before the funeral,

allowing us to put some goodies inside the coffin to accompany Alan on his journey, and making it possible for me to go downstairs at the end of the service so I could be there until the very last moment when the coffin entered the cremator furnace.

Thank you to the staff at Canford Crematorium for agreeing to this, and to Richard who, on the previous day, came to the rescue with the formatting of the brochures.

Thank you Geshe Damcho and Geshe Thinley for all your prayers, loving presence and gentle support.

Thank you Chris Hill, John Bruce, Sam Hallett, Jeremy Lander, Phil Vickery and Roger Williams for taking the coffin from the vehicle and placing it onto the catafalque.

Thank you Janie for agreeing to officiate the service and holding the space in such a professional way - and thank you Jan for persuading me to delegate this task as I was determined to do it myself - and who knows what would have happened!

Thank you also to Barbara, Adrian, Tim and Jane for their tributes, to Geshe Damcho for the blessed sweets that were distributed at the end of the service, and to Mike Austin for collecting the donations to Gya House, Drepung Monastery, in appreciation of Alan's life. Thank you all for your kind donations!

A big thank you to Lam Rim Centre for offering the space for the gathering after the funeral. Also to Jan, who organised it so well, to Rachel for being in charge of the kitchen, and to the very generous anonymous donors who provided all the food and refreshments!

Thank you Caroline, Paul and Jane, for providing the music during the gathering at Lam Rim Centre after the funeral! Thank you all who stayed for the Tara Puja and helped tidy up at the end of the day.

Thank you to all the t'ai chi students who kept the classes going and David and Iain for all the support following Alan's death.

A very special thank you to David Talbott, for being so supportive and helping with so many difficult tasks, such as visiting funeral directors, registering Alan's death, and so on.

Thank you to my parents who, as soon as they heard the news, came straight away, driving all night long to the airport and arriving in Bristol around lunch time the following day, in tears and completely exhausted. For 7 weeks I didn't have to cook a single meal and had the support I needed to get on with the seemingly endless tasks that one must do following a death knowing my son was well looked after.

May you all be happy and enjoy a long and healthy life!